I Don't Know What to Say :(

Submitted by Robin (United States), Oct 6, 2019 at 17:44

Bella, I met my Moroccan husband on Facebook, and initially we were simply friends. In time, our feelings (I thought) developed into something stronger. You would have never guessed from our conversations that he had ulterior motives, which was why I thought he was different than the men you read about here. I also met some of his family and friends, and he seemed legitimate. However, over time, he began saying and doing things that made me question his intentions, but he always either had a ready answer, or would try to make me feel guilty for harboring doubts about him. I know now that no young Muslim man who has never been married will ever marry an older, non Muslim woman unless it is to gain something from them. You say you have already helped him financially. The fact that he accepted your help, and is now talking about marriage, speaks volumes. I too helped my husband financially, and it never seemed to be enough. It took me more than two years after I married him to realize it was all a con. He had never loved me, just put on an act so that he could gain entrance to the U.S. I'm sure you feel like your man is different. So did I. So did many, if not all, others on this board. My advice to you is not to marry this man, and do not petition to bring him to your country. I'm sure you love him desperately, but any immigration official is going to see the age, culture and religious differences. You will spend a lot of money, deal with a lot of stress, and waste a lot of time in the process. All love aside, what can he do for you? Should you have to support a husband and his family? I'm sure you think if you brought him to your country he would become financially independent, but more than likely any money he makes will be sent to his family in Morocco. You will pay all of his support. It would be like supporting a grown child. Is this what you want in a husband? What's that saying, Marry in haste, repent in leisure? For your own sake, think with your head, not with your heart. I'm very sorry for you, because I know how difficult this is.

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