The perfect Turkish guy

Submitted by NT (United States), Oct 30, 2019 at 00:23

Hello ladies! Thank you so much for your advice on here, I saw this site over a month ago and closed it off thinking why did I have to see this negative stuff then I came back again and guess what? It prepared me for the heartbreak in my hotel room weeks later, after 6 weeks of meeting twice in person moving to video chats with the perfect Turkish guy (he returned to his state). My mind flashed right back to what I read on this site as soon as he said he was married, is divorced less that a year and has two children one who he hasn't met in person, wasn't born as yet when he left Turkey, begged his then wife to bring the children over but she refused and has been depressed for years seeing a therapist and currently seeking asylum as he was under investigation in Turkey.

I ended it on the spot because one non negotiable of mine is no lying even by omission but I remembered later on that I did in fact ask him if he had a wife and kids joking fashion and he said no and qualified it saying he has no kids straight lie on video chat. I didn't have much to say to him afterwards except that I'm not a home wrecker! I can be mischievous myself, my demeanor changed he sensed it and tried to talk to me but I had lost interest. He didn't seem to be happy with his life as he had portrayed for weeks. Maybe mirrored me? I was happy that something told me book my own room in case anything plays off and that was my leverage as he didn't make proper arrangements for a place to stay as he said he would have a month prior and thought he would stay with me. Even he was in a state of shock, it was a sad goodbye because it was the first day I that I had arrived and by night fall it was done. I feel fortunate because the scripture "resist the devil and he will flee" popped into my mind right before he decided to reveal his "situation"- including a cancelled passport by his country. All I knew him to be was a happy phd student, which I verified behind the scenes, living with his parents, not having alot of experience, so he claimed, and I was okay with that, we got along very well, gentleman and easy on the eyes of course. It has been a month and after a few weeks I felt that maybe I overreacted but I was hurt and felt that I deserve better. I don't need anyone trying to bring destruction and sadness to my doorsteps/beautiful hotel room.

Thank you again ladies, this 6 week dream had to end some time I know, I have learned my lesson about trust and falling into what I thought was an innocent love. On another note.The first day I met him I voice recorded how the entire date went when I got home since he did invite himself over as he was driving back to his state the next morning and I said no. I did the same thing after he left. Those voice recordings have been so helpful for me to not forget what could have been little red flags all along and to hear my voice and how I felt in the moment and not forget!

I thank God nothing physical took place and for his protection. Thank you! Any thoughts I am open to.

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