Addicted to Pakistani Man & Don't Know What to Do

Submitted by Lauren (United States), Nov 6, 2019 at 16:58

I'll try to keep this short.

I entered a relationship with a Norwegian-born Pakistani man who is 10 years younger than me after he basically begged me to date him for almost a year. I won't even start on the age difference, but will just get to the point.

Everything seemed good at first. He was sweet, loving, attentive, bla bla. With time he became more and more possessive, immature, and withdrawn. He showered me with attention and affection until I fell in love with him, then he seemingly is withdrawing from me. I have barely talked to him at all in weeks (we went from talking every day for hours on end to i can barely get a couple of texts out of him each day. and he can go days without talking to me.)

Every time I bring it up to him, he's either extremely sick or saying he just left the hospital. Either he is in extremely poor health or he's lying and seeing someone else. I know his dad did die from a heart attack, and my 'boyfriend' has asthma so he could very well have inherited some severe medical issues. But the constant near-death illness and hospital stays is extremely suspicious to me. And even if it is true, I don't think I want a man that young with so many health issues. I do want a family - which means I don't want my husband dying out of nowhere leaving me to raise all my kids on our own.

Whenever I try to break up with him, he acts dramatic. Lately though he's been less and less dramatic (idk if it's because I've left and come back so many times that he just got used to it or what), and like I said - he can now go long periods of time not talking to me seemingly un-bothered. He only appears to care about me dumping him if it involves me dating someone else. He's also recently started pressuring me for sex and I think he's planning to try to get me pregnant the first time we do it.

There's a lot more going on, but at this point I really don't know what to to think and feel like I should just cut my losses and leave for good. What do you think??

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