Don't Do It, Caz :(

Submitted by Robin (United States), Nov 13, 2019 at 16:23

It really bothers me to come on here and read about women this is happening to, who think their man is different (or at least hope that he is). Every single detail you provided is nothing but a repeat of almost every story here. These men only want a way out of their countries. They don't love us, even though they play a very convincing act. I can guarantee you that whatever he is to your face, he is nothing like that behind your back. He is a completely different person. Even if he presents friends and family who act like he's a great guy, it's all a lie. Either they are in on it, or they are just as ignorant as you. Either way, you will be very sorry if you go forward with this, especially if you bring him to your country. I did make the mistake of marrying my MENA, but ultimately it did him no good. The visa interview tripped him up. The officials at the embassies are trained to see through situations like this. You will only spend a fortune, and all to no avail. I wasted three years of my life on this clown. Even though you have already booked the flight, and even if you will lose the cost of the airfare, don't go to him. He will manage to sweet talk you into doing what he wants, which is to use you as a ticket out of his country.

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".