I hope you told the acquaintance to ignore him

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Nov 17, 2019 at 17:05

they do tend to come back but I assure you that you can rid yourself of him. Give him nothing of yourself. This you will have to do in your own power. If he is in touch with someone you know and that person is not protecting your privacy wishes .. then time to let that person go too.

My ex did the same to my best friend AFTER he went to facebook pretending to be with me with pictures and befriending my online friends. That was a mess. Now he does try to still contact my BF however she ignores him and blocks too. For me I left facebook which was the only place he could find me, along with the other one from Pakistan. I really thought the Pak man was the most gorgeous man alive, however I don't want to hear from him either. Don't wish him bad but I put an end to my online presence because I did not want myself to be tempted by the good looks...so I had to take control internally of anything coming my way. Been off facebook for over a year. My profile is up there, but I say no to it. I really do not care to be open with anyone online. So yes you can stop it. But you will have to do it internally.

I had to move as well. He never knew where I was but tried to find me. It has been 5 years now and to my knowledge he does not know where I am. He could not get in here anyway because I have double security here. Had to be done for my safety. But I noticed that once every six months he would open a new facebook account and send me a message request. I was sick and tired of it so I just disappeared and I have been more relaxed and calm about my life now. But it took me letting go of the nonsense of facebook...the only place he could find me. No skype accounts, and he is blocked from my email.

If the acquaintance he is messaging about you does not respect your privacy...then you need to move on from that person. Tell that person that you do not even want to know that he is looking for you. Tell that person you do not care and let that person handle it. Tell that person no intimate details about you so they will have no ammunition to use to tell your ex. It can be done. You can do it. It just takes determination and meaning it.

Best wishes to you and yours.

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