You Cannot Just Blaim the Muslim Men For the Tragedies Here

Submitted by Natalia (United States), Nov 24, 2019 at 15:19

After reading many of the stories here, I agree that many Muslim men can be strong willed and controlling. And if you are looking for a romantic, yet non-committal relationship, they may be too domineering to fit the bill.

But I must say, that the ultimate fault for all of these horror stories, lies with the women themselves. The world is full of predators. If it had not been a Muslim man looking for money or a Green Card or sex - it would have been a Nigerian man trying to get you to give them your credit card information over the phone, or an American man telling you you are the most beautiful woman in the world in order to get you to have sex with them - or any number of situations that end up with a person being used in order to fulfill someone else's agenda. Welcome to the world.

I would ask of these women, did you not research the culture of these men you were involved with, before or while being involved with them? If you did, you would realize that Muslim men have very strict and very high standards in regards to their women. The entire culture evolves around the tenant that a virtuous woman is the cornerstone of their society. Keeping their women virtuous and guarding their honor is what they believe prevents their whole society from deteriorating. The culture regards American culture as lax, to put it mildly. They frown upon American culture, sex before marriage and divorce. And they think something is wrong with a woman over 30 that wants to be married, but isn't. A young Muslim man's idea of the perfect woman, is Muslim, not American, a virgin and under 25. If they are to be living in the U.S. after marriage, than she should also be educated - a Pharmacist, a Registered Nurse, a Physician, etc. A Muslim man would never make his first choice a non-Muslim, an American woman, of a different religion and culture, over 30, his first choice. Throw in divorced, uneducated, unemployed and forty or fifty something, and the cards are stacked even higher against her - for finding a Muslim man - or an American man, at that.

I also think that a lot of women here would benefit from mental health counseling. Point being, the title of this thread is indeed appropriate - it ADVICE to to non-Muslim women thinking about dating Muslim men. It is not a place to bash an entire culture or to eschew blame and avoid taking responsibility. If these women want a spouse, let them find a spouse, of their own culture. Choose wisely. And stay married. How hard is that?

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