Hard to get

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Jan 9, 2020 at 18:01

As a rule MENA men are hyper masculine, so they are like the average guy in the west but on steroids. A lot of us ladies - myself included - have or had somewhat altruistic natures, as well as being told that a relationship is give and take. We're also taught to be open to different cultures.

MENA men (mostly Egyptians, Iraqis, Kurds, not so much Moroccans) like women that are extremely hard to get, so don't believe otherwise. They will fool around with the women with soft boundaries but they generally prefer to marry tougher ones. Reason being (aside from jealousy) the woman is usually the one that passes her values onto the kids. And this is why the dowries are so high. This is also why the more we did for them, the less they valued us. Once married you're expected to submit, but only once the chasing has been done and the rings have been exchanged. If you submit before he will assume that you have no boundaries and are open to being manipulated with little to no investment required.

They ARE sweet talkers, which combined with good looks is a dangerous combination. And where women go wrong is in assuming they're just like European men but with darker features, which couldn't be further from the truth. ALL men the world over wear a mask to get laid quicker, and this is how MENA men wear theirs - by pretending to be open and secular. And it's not always the woman's fault - if you've just arrived in the country how are you supposed to know. A lot of the time we want to prove everyone wrong.

There are exceptions but there will usually be something "off" about him.

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