Hi Tracey

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Jan 19, 2020 at 16:18

Two questions, is he living in the U.K. and what makes you think he is married?

From what I know about Kurds, honestly, they can be very good lovers. When they love you they are very protective, and they won't let anyone harm you. They are very passionate.

On the flipside of that passion they are hot headed. They don't forgive and forget easily. The reason I left my Kurdish ex was because I had to put things into perspective, and honestly I saw no future between us. Kurds are known for being quite tribal, and - not so sure about now - but they generally don't mix with non Kurds. If they do then it's usually with Turks or other similar cultures. If he's living in the U.K. then there's a slight chance that he might be more open to dating out. Some are more modern (mine was older). If you met him online be very careful. It's also a bit strange that he's introduced you to his family so quickly. That's generally "not done".

I also left because of the high levels of criminal activity within the community. It's generally not safe to be in that kind of environment, where it could even get to point where you're "guilty by association". I also felt stalked.

Finally, they're generally not that religious. Most are Muslims, the rest are Yazidi, some Zoroastrian or atheists. But they do hold traditional beliefs about women. They usually like to know where you are at all times, who you're talking to... no male friends etc... so if you like your personal space then be prepared to give it up. You have to give your all.

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