Cut him off

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Jun 12, 2020 at 17:57

He sounds like trouble - my advice to you is to cut contact. I'm assuming he's Muslim so what he's done - premarital sex - is actually forbidden, or "haram" in his religion. In other words, for him to be going around having "one night stands" is a big no-no. So if anything, remind him of that then cut him off. He is probably enjoying the ego boost of having two women fighting over him. Don't give him the satisfaction.

He's cheated on his fiancé and he's cheated his own god. Great guy.

I know exactly how you feel. I've been there. You are a good woman and that's why it hurts so much. If you were "easy" and just looking for a good time then it wouldn't be so painful. These men don't care, even if they're your first sexual partner, you're still considered to be a kaffir. You can be Virgin Mary but they'll still see you as a piece of meat. They are not relationship material. To be involved with a woman so freely, with no male guardian present, they view you as an easy target.

I would forget about him and let his fiancé have him. It's all fun and games until he starts coming home late at night with lipstick on his cheek. Don't feel like she is better in any way, she just happens to be the right religion and ethnicity. That's all it's about to them. To protect yourself in future, look up the giveaway signs of manipulative men and see what to avoid. I know it's hard at the moment, but find ways to rebuild your self confidence.

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