I fell for the Wrong Egyptian man in UK During the Pandemic

Submitted by Rosie (United Kingdom), Jul 5, 2020 at 14:05

I am from one of the east Asian countries and currently living in UK for academic study. I got to know an Egyptian man when I and my son were living for 20 days in the hotel where he worked as a receptionist. We had interesting chats in the hotel and he's so nice, kind and gentle to me and my son. He's been working in UK for 15 years and has already got the British gentle-man style. I am a kind, warm-hearted and generous married woman.

After I checked out, I didn't see him for two months. Before the pandemic broke out in UK, I saw him again in the hotel. He was two years older than me and single. Ever since he texted me messages frequently and phoned me sometimes. We got to know each other further and I told him I had an unhappy marriage. He was so sweet, loving and caring and always showed me the highest respect. In the following three months, I gradually fell in love with him and it seemed that he loved me genuinely so much and told me he would love to do anything for me. He also imagined what we could do together when the pandemic was over.

Unfortunately, my son was sick for more than three months and I couldn't handle the situation myself once. I texted him message and asked for help. He came over to see us, played with my son and made us happy. After lunch in my house, we had a long walk in the woods. He wanted to have sex with me in the woods but I declined.

After that day, he began to keep distance from me and sometimes didn't reply my messages or delayed replying them. Recently I texted him message and told him how much I missed him and planned to invite him for dinner and have fun after the lockdown was eased. He just ignored my message and didn't answer them anymore. He stopped texting me messages, which was totally different from before we met. I remembered the day when we were walking in the woods, a woman called him and they were chatting for 15 minutes. He told me her sister called him every week at that time. Because they were speaking Arabic, I didn't understand a single word. But I heard he said "Indian food delivery." He's actually lying because he had lunch at my house.

In the past month, I was stuck with him, missed him so much, lost my appetite for food and could not fall asleep. I was skeptic of my self-identity and worth and doubted that I had said something offending him or making him unhappy. I trusted him so much and regarded him as my soul mate in the past four months.

Thanks to this forum, I got to know the truth about those "sweet" Egyptian men and realized how silly and ridiculous I was. I was just living in a fantasy and thinking of him as the lover I dreamed of. However, he is not my cup of tea in fact. I am blessed to be awakened now and I will stop hurting myself for a man who is so mean and may just regard me as his one night stand sex target.

Now my husband and I called each day and we began to repair our relationship and I found that my husband was the only man I can lean on not anyone else. Hope my story will help more women get out of the trap and raise ourselves up. Good luck everybody!

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