Sometimes is love but...

Submitted by A very concerned reader, Jan 31, 2021 at 04:25

Dear Lina,

Not always is infatuation in this dyfunctional relationships in which the Muslim men have an interest from the get go. There's love, but one-sided, and for a person who is not for real. Let me explain it...

These men know what they're doing. Believe me, as their patterns are always the same. The love-bomb their victims to fall them in love quick by hunting them, giving them pricey gifts, romantic dinners, trips.. Whatever they always wanted. You name it. They listen very well at the beginning to get to know you better than you do yourself. Before the victim notices she is trapped in love. He acts quick like a seller does to seal the deal. Then, they withdraw the love and affection. Then, they come back. It's the carrot and stick old game but in a very soffisticated way. They create and habit in you, an addiction. And much better not to talk about how many of these sick men use sex to empowering reinforce the feelings of the victim for them, as they know that women get attached to men through having intimate relationships. Women release hormones and chemicals that keep them hooked. That's why leaving these men is not easy at all. That's the reason also why many women come back to their abusers. It's not their fault, believe me. They've been filled with all those hormones and chemicals. It's not as different as quitting any other addiction. Once the victim realises that she was in love with a person who never existed, it's easier to help her get out for good. But Lina, it's love for them. Only that they loved a fake persona. That's all.

I'm very happy to hear you so strong through your posts! Keep smiling. For me it's so beautiful to see victims becoming survivors. From my point of view, leaving an abusive relationship is a sign of resilience and self-love. A person must be very strong to be able to make it. :)

Take care!

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