Blessing in Disguise

Submitted by c mori (Canada), May 12, 2006 at 09:20

Hi , I did a search because I wanted to see how prevelant it is for Muslim men, to be in the West, and start dating Western women, and then eventually dump them to get an arranged marriage. This post came up and I found it interesting.

I was dating a muslim man, who debated marriage to me for almost 2 years. But then he eventually succumbed to his family pressure and took an arranged marriage with his cousin. I am still dealing with the fall-out from his decision. But I realize, and many people have told me, that this is a real blessing in disguise. I see so many cultural differences that we would never have been able to overcome.

I see how my life would have been a contant struggle, and how many issues would have arisen, in starting a family, etc. I in fact feel a huge weight lifted from me. It is not really up to me to judge other cultures. They are simply different. We are, for the msot part, very ignorant of our own cultural presumptions. Our lenses.It is not anyone's fault, really. I am just glad not to be someone's hand-maiden!

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