Children

Submitted by Theresa (United States), Jul 2, 2006 at 19:44

I am a Catholic Woman who is engaged to a Muslim man who is originally from Egypt. We have a wonderful relationship filled with respect and dedication to and for each other. For the past several years, we have discussed how to raise our children after we marry? We both researched each others faiths as well as met with other couples who have Christian/Muslim marriages.

What we both realize is that we cannot convince each other to convert religiously nor do we ever have to agree with each other when it comes to our religious differences. We have an understanding of each others faiths and respect the fact that this relationship is not exactly what our families would have wanted for us. Our families have expressed some sadness but if we are willing to accept our own differences then I believe that it can and will work. This is our journey in life, not my parents and even though I would never want to disappoint them, they won't be living every single day of my life - only I will. My parents are in a completely different generation than I am. Of course, people will always judge others and have opinions that may not be in agreement with ours however, I believe that the majority of people, especially where I live, is more open minded than ever.

My fiancee will not have his children raised any other way than Muslim. Intially, I was broke hearted and though, "There is no way I would ever raise my children any faith other than Catholic". Over time however and after much research in both of our faiths (as well as speaking with some liberal Priests and Imams), I found that this relationship is too important for me personally to end it over religion. The fact is that, I am a Catholic and always will be. I feel that in my heart. Sometimes I do not agree with the Chruch politically. I truly believe that regardless if my child is baptised or not, he/she will of course go to heaven. I also believe that Jesus would never turn his back on me. Does it really matter if I believe that Jesus is the son of God and my husband and children see him as a prophet? As long as my children are well grounded and have an uncondition love for God, isn't that what its all about? Of course, I'm not critizing anyone else who doesn't have God in their lives but for me, this is how I feel.

God Bless!

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