Muslim girl dating christian man

Submitted by Daisy (Canada), Sep 11, 2006 at 09:28

I have been dating a Christian MAN for four years now and I truly love him...I love him like a baby, I make his lunch for him everday, I do his laundry, we do things he enjoys and we get along very well. Even though I am not religious, but my parents are from a muslim background. They are religious but my parents love me so they will accept anyone who makes me happy, to them my happiness is more important than some religious restrictions.

I read many things about how unacepting muslim men are, but my boyfriend's family is very racist and they're Christians. When I attend his family funtions, all they talk about is how dumb muslims are and they bring out newspaper articles and just completely bash the muslim race while I'm there. They call Muslims uncivilized, call them stupid, cave men, coachoraches and that they should all burn and die, and they say all this in front of me.

I think the basic rule about dating is always first to date someone who lives in your area presently because when you speak to people long distance, someone you have never met, whether muslim or not, the chances of them being the wrong person is relatively high. Second, make sure you both have respect for each other, regardless of your religion. I make a great effort to blend in his family, I attend Chruch with his family sometimes because to me God is not Muslim, or Christian or Jewish, instead God is in your heart and in our souls and in your faith. I truly believe that if there is God then there is only one God and we just know him through different religions. we should never segregate ourselves by some small differences like religion, race or colour. The most important thing is to be with a person who respects you and loves you for who you are.

I love my boyfriend to pieces and we are very compatible and we have been talking about moving in together and getting married but my huge concern is how our families will get along together. It is very important to me that our families get along, but his family is incredibly disrespectful and I am concerned that they will treat my parents will disrespect as they have done to me on several occassions. I guess the fact that I love him, that I have been there for him in his most terrible days does not seem to mean much over my race or religion. On the other hand, my brother's girlfriend is white Christian, and my parents and brother and my entire family treats her like gold. we have made her part of our family, when my mother goes shopping for us she buys clothes for her too. My brother bought saved up and bought her a diamond necklace for their 6-month anniversary together! My boyfriend forgets my birthdays, our anniversary dates, he just says he has a bad memory.

Sometimes I wonder why I put up with this. I am smart, beautiful, University educated with a degree in Business, and I have guy friends who have been trying for years to date me, but I just love my boyfriend and cannot leave him.

If anyone has any opinion on this, please let me know. I guess it would help with what decision I want to make. Do I want to be married to my boyfriend in the future who is very racist? What if we had children together, would his family treat me like this in front of my kids? This has been very difficult, I can't live with him and I can't live without him....

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