I'm not Sally, but I would like to reply...

Submitted by concerned (United States), Sep 13, 2006 at 17:25

Laura, I hope you do not mind my reply to you. I have seen friends in the past make mistakes and I would like to just say this:

Please give very careful consideration to any steps you might take that could affect you for the rest of your life. Marriage is challenging enough when there are not such difficult decisions and dividers. You should really think carefully about how well you know this man.

I would say that it takes at least 2 years of going out with someone to really get to know them, when their guard is down and they are really themselves with you. Words are cheap and promises are even cheaper. I would strongly suggest that you hold off until you know more about him and the circumstances that you may be living in.

I repeat, words are cheap, so don't go by what you are told, but what you see! Good luck to you and I hope you will make the choices that will protect you from harm.

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