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Its all the same whether u marry muslim or not.Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Sabrina (Canada), Sep 14, 2006 at 13:42 After reading many blogs on here I wanted to let you women know this. I am muslim, born and raised and no matter what religion culture etc, it is the same story. 1. when your husband or boyfriend asks you to say the shahada, in front of him or his family, its not really valid unless you do it with an Imam or a Shaykh, basically the leader from the mosque. Please dont become muslim if you dont believe it, you are only insulting yourself and cheating God for his words, if you dont believe it. 2. Arab and Muslim men are very black hearted, a lot have them have been brought up in war, and it changes their perspectives no matter what. Imagine if you were there and saw this, your minds definitely would not be the same. 3. IF you are dating a Muslim man, please know this, the mothers always have control over their son. The son will do whatever the mother wishes. Especially when it comes down to marriage, as sweet as they can be, their mothers will have the final say. Thats why you see, when they go back home and their moms say somthing, they will follow it. If you want to marry one, go to the mother, and talk to her one on one. Befriend the mom truly. Even if it means learning choppy arabic, urdu, turkish lol- whatever it takes. 4. Islam itself has been shown in the media to be very very bad. please understand that there are lots of sects of Islam, the ones you see as Osama are the Wahabi sects, they hate all other muslims, I have had family killed b/c of this sect of Wahabism. Dont believe everything you read off the net, and please dont pick phrases and think you know what they mean, a lot of it will be metaphors. 5. The reason a lot of Muslim men wont let their wives see their side of the family, is usually b/c if the kids are there will they eat pork, will they try to "convert' the child into whatever religion. Muslim men are only allowed to marry non muslim women IF THEIR INTENTION IS TO HAVE MUSLIM KIDS. If you and your boyfriend/fiance have not talked about this, then you will be in trouble. 6. Why do they beat their wives...sadly enough, they do believe the women are weaker, and they have ego issues, and pride issues. If you were to read through the Quran and talk to Imams about women in Islam you would see that women are a prize for men, but now a days men are just paranoid and think they have something to prove to their family and friends. A lot of them are backward minded, and have cultural issues not religous. Islam has been mixed up with Culture and is causing a big problem in the muslim world. 7. If you really want to marry a Muslim...don't marry an Arab from the middle east, a lot of Pakistani and Indian Muslims welcome the "western women" with open arms, and will take care of you better. By looks they might not be too applealing sometimes, but their hearts are better...watch a bollywood movie and you'll get the idea. I am muslim, and have gotten to know many muslim men who were arab, and all have hurt me. I am not here to bash being muslim, I love my religion. But for those who are non muslim, go to an Islamic scholar and ask them about Islam, to realize what it will be like. Actions do speak louder than words, words are sweet and never mean anything. In my experience, the mid-east ones are very very hard to handle and you will never know them, even if you believe you do, theres a chance you dont. And if he forces you to convert, dont. Unless you truly accept Islam. In this day and age, sadly enough, its easier to marry your own kind. Why? because the women know what to expect and so do the men. I know its stupid to say esp. if you live in Canada or the US. but realistically, unless you were brought up in the middle east or asia or w/ that background, you wont understand them. Heck, I dont even get them half of the time and i'm the same. I can say lot of bad things about non-muslims, my sister married out and is on the verge of divorce b/c he is abusive and an alcoholic, and doesnt care about his son, who is only 4 months old. I am very mad, and can say so much about his religous upbringings his family and his background. But I wont. why? because at the end of the day we are all human, and will return to the same creator (if you belive in God). And he can take care of those who have hurt others. SO PLEASE...USE YOUR HEAD MORE THEN YOUR HEART, AND IF YOU DONT KNOW ASK...AND IF YOUR UNSURE - DONT DO IT. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. 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