Reply to Irish girl Lorraine...

Submitted by concerned (United States), Sep 14, 2006 at 16:23

Hi Lorraine, my best advice would be to see if he comes to Ireland to meet you of his own accord. You should not assist in any way with a visa, money or any other means to get him there.

Since you have not known him very long at all, it is very difficult to figure out what his motives are. You should at least see if he cares enough to come to you on his own steam. If not, then you will know you were being used.

Even if he does come to Ireland, you should then spend time without a commitment and see whether you are compatible, and to what extent his religion affects his life. Believing Muslims have very strict codes and cultural behaviour. You may find that you cannot abide by them. Your free Irish western culture may be something you are not willing to give up. Don't over romanticize- make sure you are seeing clearly the reality, not what you would like it to be.

Hope this helps!

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