I read your description of your relationship...

Submitted by concerned (United States), Sep 19, 2006 at 16:37

Hi, Thanks for telling your story about your relationship.

I would only say that while I understand how you enjoy the 'good parts' of your relationship, the care and attention, they are really the flip side of possession.

You say that there is a trust issue. Well, trust is absolutely key to a good relationship. You have not 'crossed' him yet. What do you think might happen if you do? Would you be afraid? Are you afraid when he is angry at you? I would.

I was involved in a possessive realtionship where I mistook possessiveness for caring. If you want to have freedom in your life, be careful here, and don't mistake attention for love. From what you describe, it sounds like you would have very little freedom once you 'belong' to him. Remember, you are still in the courtship period. People tend to change and show more of themselves over time. If you are going into this relationship with the expectation that you will have religious freedom for yourself and your kids, you had best look long and hard at the facts you describe.

Good luck, and I hope this helps!

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