Comment for Michelle

Submitted by Laura (United States), Sep 27, 2006 at 02:56

Hi michelle,

We are sort of in the same situation. My boyfriend is from Saudi Arabia and we have spoken about marriage in the future. If I ever decide to marry him, I would have to convert to Islam and raise my children Muslim. This means that my children will not celebrate Christmas, Easter, and all the other special holidays.

I would also want my daughter to be able to marry any person that she chooses, but if she is Muslim, she will have no choice but to marry a Muslim man. Alchohol, smoking, and having sex before marriage is also prohibited.

I think its very ironic how my boyfriend him being Muslim, isn't allowed to smoke or drink alcohol or have sex, yet sometimes it's ok and other times its not. I guess it depends on how he was raised. For example, my boyfriend's father is Saudi and his mother was a catholic american and converted to Islam, so I think this has made my boyfriend more open-minded. All I can say is talk to him and ask him any questions you might have.

One person in this blog said. "You can take the man out of his country, but you will never take the country out of the man". Think about this phrase. Take your time in making a decision, you said you have known him for 5 months? This is very little time to get to truly know a person. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and a half and I still don't know what i will do.

Hope I was of help...if you have any more questions about the culture or religlion I will help you in any way possible. I know it is better to talk to someone who is going through a similar situation than a person who isn't .

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