hi michelle

Submitted by lorraine (Ireland), Sep 27, 2006 at 04:46

hi michelle, this is the irish girl here. i am in a similar situation to you, only you have spent a lot more time with your man than i have. i take it you read my post. well with him not contacting me as much as he used to and him not been able to come over here to me and wanting me to go over there and marry him i cant see it working btween us.

its not him not contacting me that is the problem its when i ask him why he ignores the situation.that upsets me. i personally cant go over there to him and give up all my friends and family and marry a man that i dont know all that well. as for your situation, at least your man is willing to meet you half way. but it is not a good sign michelle when he is giving out to you about smoking and trying to change you or your habits already if he is like this now how will he be if you are married.

as for raising your kids as muslim. a muslim man can only marry out of his religion on the condition his kids are raised as muslim.he will almost definitely want your kids raised as muslim. to me its easy accepting him for who he is but i would find it hard raising my kids to this strict religion, especially if i had girls, she would never be allowed marry out of her religion and i think this is very unfair.

my advice to you is think long and hard about how your life will be and your kids if you marry this man.only you can make your decision michelle.just listen to your head as well as your heart. because thats where i was going wrong i was listening to my heart too much. im here if you want to get back to me.

the best of luck. take care.

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