Inshalla Daisy

Submitted by Jules (United States), Sep 27, 2006 at 12:00

Hello Daisy,

I really respect your comment about going to a church to be surrounded by God's love. Your'e right it shouldn't be seperated by religion... My family is Muslim as well, though my story is a bit more confusing.

My husband's family loves me and especially my mother in law she is so nice. Though whenever I bring up or mention my family being muslim or wanting to learn to speak more Turkish or Arabic, it gets quiet or its not the right time or place. Its like being treated like a child or as if I'm stupid. You say you're a well educated woman and don't forget your pride. Sounds like you truly found your soulmate and you both will outlive your families and have one of your own. I don't want this to sound apathetic about our own families, I guess what I'm trying to say is ignorance is easier to act upon rather than trying to be open minded to others differences.

Go ahead and marry the man you love, as long as you can be yourself and he with you. This is what truly matters! We all know the expression actions speak louder than words. Through your families examples (and they already gave a BIG one allowing you to be love and have "happiness" regardless of if you do what every muslim girl is suppose to....) Gracefully smile don't let them upset you (easy said then done, I know). Many people I cross don't realize that I share the blood of a muslim man (my father) rather I believe his beliefs or not thats my personal decision. When I hear stupid comments like all muslims should die or send them all back to their country...its really wrong and ignorant. First of all I live in the US and Americans are diverse in culture and religion this is what makes up America. The freedom of self expression. Of course many of use hear about the war and all the saddness that goes on and only creates more ignorance since they are using the muslim religion. Its a sin! No God wants anyone to kill because someone is different. Sorry for my rampage.... ;)

Long story short...through your examples and stand up for yourself and most importantly your boyfreind should NOT TOLERATE his family acting in such ignorant ways! No matter what they say, actions do speak louder. Look at your family graciously accepting your happiness while (with no disrespect) his family seems to be acting like children. You set the example but not alone with your boyfreind. And I am sure your families will get along in the near future. It's best to start slowly and find out way his family is so against muslims? Do they even understand the culture and that not evey muslim is terrible??? I know many american families that are divorced and unhappy and never stick together.....so they have no right to put down another culture.

With best regards & Respect.

Jules

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