I understand how you feel.

Submitted by maria (United States), Sep 27, 2006 at 22:33

hi,

i read your comment and i must say i feel very touched and understood. because i am actually thinking about all these factors now too. I am having a crush on this iranian guy and he is an american but not too strict...well you never know...he might be showing his real face later in life.Thats scary.

Your guy sounds he is a very caring, loving man, and good future father. However, they change their personality when you marry them. And that changes a bit over time. He will tell you more and more what to do, not to do, and stuff. In most cases, it is very hard to divorce a muslim man. But again, as long as you are in America, stay a Methodist, then it shouldnt be hard to do that.

This is a very hard situation for any woman who is a non-muslim getting together with a muslim. Watch the movie "Not Without My Daughter". That movie is so true about it. I mean, you will lose every power, if you move to his country, or, simply, leave yours.

Try to sit down with him, and seriously talk with him. Tell him what bothers you about him. Say it in a normal tone. Try to make him understand how you feel. If he a caring and understanding man, then he wont jump up and start arguing. Thats not a good start already then. If he does understand you though, he might think about trying to slow his arguement down, and try to compromise with you. He knew he was getting together with a non-muslim woman, so he should know what to expect.

I wish you good luck, and i'd be glad to help more. Take care!

PS: If ever, i mean EVER, he happens to hit you, LEAVE him immediately. Pack your stuff, and leave. No questions asked. I see so many women who take that into themselves, and stay with their husbands, or boyfriends.

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