I'd like to offer my advice, Amanda

Submitted by Natalie (United States), Sep 29, 2006 at 10:53

Hi There,

I read your comment about your Tunisian love, and I would like to offer some advice. First I would like to say that I think it is very admirable of you to even consider up and leaving your home country to be with the man that you love. It's not at all an easy task, and I guarantee that it will not be an easy journey, of course such a huge move never is. But anyhow, I'm sure you've already considered that. :)

However, one thing that concerns me is this.....What is the reason that he is not willing to consider going to England to be with you? Please don't get me wrong, I don't mean to direct negativity towards him in any way.....you are the one who knows and loves him, not me. I'm just wondering that if you are willing to even consider living in his home country, then why shouldn't it be taken into consideration that he go to live in your home country with you?

I think that you should discuss with him your concerns about moving to Tunisia, and ask him if he will even consider going to England..then you can go from there. If he's absolutely adamant about not going with you, then perhaps you can both sit down and consider going to a country that you can both agree on? I know this idea may seem a bit whimsical, but at least you will know how far he is willing to go for you.

My husband and I, often express to eachother, that we don't care if we lived in the middle of the ocean together, the fact that we are together is of the greatest importance. So I think that if a person truly loves you, then they will want you to be happy, no matter what! If you feel like you are being forced into making a decision that you are not comfortable making, simply because there is no other option...then I would say that something is wrong there. From what you wrote, it seems like you are being left with no other option...I don't think that this should be. Love is sacrifice, yes this is true, but it should never be one sided....and when it comes to sacrifice, it should really come from both ends of the spectrum, don't you think? If you both love each other and are considering marriage, then I say that you can both sit down and come to an agreement on where to live, so that you are BOTH happy. Please consider that.

Good luck with everything Amanda, and I hope I've helped at least a little bit.

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