Young Turkish Men & Living together & Marriage to non-Turkish Girls

Submitted by Darlene (United States), Oct 13, 2006 at 21:05

Hi

I have read each post and found each of the postings interesting, educating, and saddening. Call me naive (and maybe I am very naive) but what does "love" have to do with citizenship, religion, or money. First and foremost, we are all humans and we all strive after the same things air, food, love, and security. Granted or should I re-state that we are products of our own environment. Culturing we are brought up with some of the same values and ideologies. So many of the experiences women feel when entering into a relationship can depend on wether they are muslim or not but these experiences have been either pleasant and rewarding to unpleasant and heartbreaking, as well.

As so many others have posted, I am a woman who fell in love with a man from Turkey. We are young (in our late 20s) and we are now talking about moving into a place together and marriage (down the road). I will say that the person to whom I fell in love with is very considerate, we have not had sex, he does appreciate and values my sensitivities on the subject and admires me for my convictions. He currently resides in Istanbul (living with his family) and we plan to move to Bodrum. Our relationship has not been kept in the dark because everyone (family and friends) are aware of our relationship and our future together. While he has never shown any interest in moving abroad, he from the start had stated he that wanted to live in Turkey and that whoever he married she would want the same.

A long story short here, is the younger generation molded differently? Is the younger generation moving toward more openness in relationships, such as, living with someone first (obviously knowing that the other person is accepting of marriage in the future); career endeavors; etc.? Lastly, what about those men who look to marrying someone different (not apart of their culture) are they sincere in their commitments and loyality?

I believe commitment to anyone is scary but it can also be rewarding and should be taken very seriously before entering into. I am I naive here to think that this man who declared his love, his commitment to me, and living arrangements to me be a sheep in wolves clothing?

Many thanks for reading and your comments are very much welcoming.

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