Michelle

Submitted by Laura (United States), Oct 15, 2006 at 05:13

Dear Michelle,

I am pretty sure, almost positive that all Muslim men would want to raise their children Muslim. Why don't you ask your boyfriend that if you were to have kids one day would they have to be Muslim? Like I said previously, if you think there is a possibility of raising your kids muslim then continue this relationship. If it hurts you to think that your children will have no option choosing which religion they can be, then listen to your head and not your heart.

I know this is hard, trust me, I know exactly what you are going through. I have been to Morrocco myself, and thought it was beautiful. I am almost certain that if you decide not to go to see him in Dec, you will be wondering 'what if I would have gone'. Maybe it will be good for you to go visit him and his family, this way you can ask him in person all these questions that are wandering in your mind right now. Be sure to talk to his sisters, (if he has any), ask them any questions you have about the religion, this way you have a woman's perspective about the religion. Someone once told me that Islam is not just a religion, it's a way of life. It won't matter if I tell you 'listen to your head and not your heart' because in the end, it is you who has to make the final decision.

All I can tell you is what I would have done differently...I would have walked away from this relationship, even though it's been the best thing that's happened in my life. I hope I have helped you in some way. There is a brazilian soap- opera that was also shown in Latin America with the spanish version. It takes place in Morocco and it shows many of the customs. If you can, maybe you should watch it. It's called "EL CLON" in spanish, maybe you can find it with english subtitles. Like I said, feel free to ask me any questions and doubts you may have, I will be happy to help you in any way.

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