Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...let's be realistic.

Submitted by Maryam (United States), Oct 20, 2006 at 10:49

When I hear about a woman wanting to marry a man. from anywhere or from any religion, who says he loves me but he doesn't have a job, he doesn't have money, he wants me to pay for everything, he wants me to take out loans or credit for him then I hear the word "Scam" come to mind.

Some people do not have this light that turns on in their mind. Let me turn it on for you. You are not in love with this man, you are in love with the image of who you want him to be in your mind. Please, Please, Please! Let him go. If a man loves a woman, he will do anything to get to her. He will get the job and save the money and he will swim across the ocean to be with her if he wants her.

Please, sweet woman, it is better for you to meet someone you know through your friends or family that lives right here among the 300,000,000 people of the USA then to look to another country. Let's face it. We have been blessed by God to live such a life as we live here in the USA. I have to be honest and say that if I were born somewhere else in a third world country, I might also do or say whatever it took to get out of that misery. If you want to give charity or help people in other countries, then join the Peace Corp. or UNICEF. Don't marry a man through the internet or anywhere that wants a sugar mama. I say this with best intentions. Work on your self esteem issues and be the best you can be as a single woman and you will attract a better man. Maybe someone with a job! :)

Take care and best wishes.

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