reply to tonya- rod belek ala rouhek

Submitted by aysha (United States), Oct 24, 2006 at 17:45

good luck tonya. i hope for the best future for you with your judgement. not always how you feel in the heart maybe not be the best in interest. its mainly also to use your head. i am a muslim american lady happen to be married to the best muslim tunisian man.. my advice for you, is first go visit his country and his family to make sure you are accepted with his family to marry if that become your choice you want.

you must mix in with his culture and religion. don;t expect him to change into your culture 100%, don;t expect him to change from being a muslim to what you want him to be a christian. cause this will never work!!!!! don;t except a muslim arab marriage proposal if..... 1. you ( the woman) is much older then a man such as 10 years more. 2. if he ask you to send him money. ( this is in very poor taste to ask a lady for money, in islam is the man responsibilty to provide maintenance expenses for his wife while her duty is to provide for inside the home. 3. learn the laws in his country. do you know in most muslim countries a man is allowed to marry up to 4 wives? would you ever share your husband with another woman? you need to ask yourself this question.

in most arab countries, women has no rights, children cannot leave his country unless permitted by him to do so. remember you are in some other country and you must abide with the laws in that country you are in. 4. it is permissable for a muslim man to marry a none muslim. but as little time goes by he will want to marry a muslim woman - is better to marry one of your own faith then from other. but a muslim woman can never marry a none muslim man. 5. wife must do her duties, such as....do as her husband tell her as long he is not going against god's laws, must keep house clean at all times, must cook and prepare food to her husband and children, serve tea and sweets when visitors come to your home, all children born between you and your muslim husband must expect they to be muslims, keep all forbidden food and drinks out of your home such as pork and alcohol, don't expect your husband will allow you to wear shorts and sleeveless or midriff shirts out in public. if you have read this and can live up to all these examples... then you have a better survival in your marriage to a muslim man. but: like everywhere, there are good and bad kinds from all countries.

it is important to use your best judgements. and yes maryam is right, men from poor countries will do anything to gain a better life in usa or europe. keep that in mind!

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