I thought I was alone on this...

Submitted by Jewels (United States), Oct 28, 2006 at 11:02

Hello brothers and sisters,

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry that this has happened and still continues to happen, especially when most of the time the love given back to these men were given completely and with no malice. I know because I have just gotten out of a relationship with an Arab Muslim. I literally had to move away because it was the only way to get him out of my mind, he was kind, generous, attentive, loving, protective and....Married.

I cannot believe how comfortable he was mingling with Khuffar and lying through his teeth while at the same time swearing by his religion. He ended up meeting my entire family and my little girl as well, I am a divorced woman and it touched me that he was kind and helpful with my daughter. However....when I realized that he was willing to continue on the affair with me knowing that he is married and his wife not knowing about his infidelity. The thing that concerns me here my friends is that he and I signed a paper in front of three witnesses inside an apartment, stating that under Allah we are promised to each other and that i am with him for all times. He said that it was a marriage agreement under Allah this way we would not be sinning while we were together.

Anyway after almost two years of being together I finally found the courage to get out of it, he sure was charming, he does have a good heart but a very messed up mind. I believe still that he was a good man but just found himself in a common situation like all of his other friends. Hee, hee, listen to me one month after I left him I finally call him just to see how he was and the first thing he asked me was about another woman.

So maybe they are cold when it comes to Non-Muslim women, not all of them (Muslim men) are this way I pray that they are not, I am a new Muslim but only after I left him because I was not and would not embrace Islam because of him. But knowing first hand though I hope to find a good Muslim man, doesn't have to be Arab, I just have a question, even though I was married before and now a Muslim, I still cannot date or have a suitor without a chaperone right?

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