Romantic love!

Submitted by nick4693 (Japan), Oct 31, 2006 at 20:57

Hi, Tonya;

I have been reading about your pleas for help, and while you have been getting what I consider to be "good" advice from others, you seem determined to follow your own path, which is, of course, your prerogative, but it is a dangerous path.

You are making up excuses for meeting this man despite warnings that you are simply chasing a dream. Please allow me to inject my own two cents' worth, even though you won't want to hear it!.

There are several kinds of love. Love for one's parents, love for one's siblings, love for one's children, even love for one's pet, but the most dangerous and illusive and wonderful and short-lived love is that for a man by a woman, or vice versa.

You profess love for this man, but you know nothing about him! You are simply conjuring up in your mind tales of fantasy, because that is what you want to believe.

Tonya, there's a real world out there, and it's not always pretty. Right now, however, you are not alone and you should not be making decisions that could adversely affect others whom you love, namely, your two children. How can you devote so much of your time daydreaming about some will-o'-the-wisp you've never even met?

It's like smoking; is it worth taking the risk just because some freak smokes 100 cigarettes a day and lives to celebrate his 100th birthday? This guy is making a fool of you, and he's a Muslim to boot! Have you ever read the Koran? Do you know what it contains?

I've been around the block a couple of times, so I know what I'm talking about! Romantic love causes one to act irrationally; it causes one to think in anything but a sober frame of mind; it causes one to throw caution to the winds, and that's what makes it dangerous. Been there, done that!

You are obviously in love with love; you are in love with the notion of love -- romantic love. One has the most wonderful feeling; you feel magnanimous; you want to give things to the object of your love,; BUT IT NEVER LASTS, and it usually bring many regrets! How many gifts has he sent you, by the way?

I don't have a crystal ball, however, I can predict with 100% accuracy that if you met this man, a Muslim, you might initially think of him as your dreamboat, but as the reality of life crept into the picture, this dreamboat of yours would more than likely turn out to be a monster. Are you willing to take that chance, when most of the odds are stacked against you? And remember this -- the one who loves the least controls the situation!Think about that!

He wants to continue the relationship for one reason; he wants to get to the US. He wants you to share your wealth with him, and he's probably stringing along half a dozen other women and will then take the best offer! You will hate me for bursting your balloon, but you MUST wake up to reality. Life is real, and you could place your little ones in danger.

GET OUT of this "relationship" NOW, Tonya, while you have the opportunity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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