morccan man, american woman...seems to be pretty common here!

Submitted by jkitte (United States), Nov 4, 2006 at 21:43

...but i didn't meet him on the internet. i'm an american girl in her mid twenties. i've spent significant amount of time in morocco traveling (i took time off to travel the world for two years) ...never in a million years did i think about meeting a man in morocco and falling in love! never! but this summer i returned to morocco for a month and met him...... i saw him across the way and smiled at him. i made the first move. i had to have him. i never hit on men first. but something inside me told me i couldn't let this man pass me by. i insisited he talk to me. he later told me he was afraid to talk to me because i was western and he thought i would end up being trouble. (me thinking he was using me for papers, etc) but....we embarked on a beautiful romance. i met his friends, his family, and even stayed at his family home. his family was open and kind to me. they fed me, gave me gifts, did my laundry, taught me to cook moroccan cuisine, etc. it was wonderful. his mother cried when i left back to the us!!! he was always wonderful to me. he knew what i wanted before i knew. he treated every stranger with amazing respect and kindness. if an old lady were crossing the street, he'd rush to help her. there are numerous examples of selflessness on his part. he's one of those people everyone smiles at as he walks by, children love to play with... he just lights up the room! i've really never met anyone like him. i'm a cynical person and don't feel like i fall into blind love that easily...... we had many discussions about what we want from our future. our beliefs. goals. values. children. everything. i've told him i'm danish, american, and jewish. (the worlds most hated person in a muslims eyes?? haha) he doesn't care.

i'm positive he prefers i be muslim but he says he is open-minded and understands our differences. when we talk he brings up g-d once in a while but i've made it clear he cannot force me into converting. we also discussed how we would raise our children. to make their OWN decisions (as i have growing up in a jewish-christian mixed family).

i've returned to the US and we've kept in contact for five months now. my feelings are growing even stronger but i'm really unsure of what to do. i love morocco. i could stay there a while but i don't think i could imagine living there for my entire life. he says he will go where ever i want. we can stay in morocco if i want or go to any other country together. its up to me. he never insisted or asked to go to america. never. he's never asked me for money. never asked me how much i make in my career. and always feels bad when i call him and spend money doing so.

since then, i've done a bit of research about muslim men marrying non-muslim women. i understand the risks. i've heard stories of great love and lasting marriage from mixed marriages...and awful disasters. i'm hoping i will be one of the lucky ones ... any advice? i am returning to morocco in december for two weeks to visit. i don't want to rush into anything before really know what i'm doing. are there more signs i should look for? more things to ask? i really have a gut feeling he is not a "snake like con artist" that i've read about on this forum...but i want to be SURE. not blinded by love, trying to be realistic....... j ps would love response from sabrina. possibly an email??? but really would love advice from anyone! thanks again.

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