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Submitted by Magda (Poland), Nov 7, 2006 at 07:22

I really mean no offence, but I have problems comprehending what else you want and try to understand. This does not seem to be the case where the problem lies in him being Turkish, whether muslim or not. It is rather that the two of you are looking for totally different things in this 'relationship'.

Well, he may be lying about having split from his wife, but does that really matter here? I mean, he spelled it out for you - he only wants someone to sleep with occasionally, he is not willing to get involved emotionally in any way, doesn't want any sort of committment. Onthis he is being more than clear to you, and you must admit that with you he is acting honest. It seems the only one who gets cheated or used is his wife, but definitely not you.

What are you hoping for? That he will eventually come to love you? Sorry to be so blunt, but the situation is perfectly clear: if you are willing to be his bed companion and nothing more (and you have no moral qualms concerning his wife), well, go ahead and have fun, but don't expect more than that (which is what he made very clear, didn't he). And if you need love, involvement, and plans for your future together - go look for a man who is willing to give you that.

Whichever you choose, good luck to you!

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