To Stephanie

Submitted by Deb (United States), Nov 18, 2006 at 23:23

Boy do I know that trapped feeling. Why do you feel you can't get out? My guess is that your original family is dysfunctional or abusive and you cannot turn to them. (?) Do you have children? For me my reasons for staying were due to the fact that I feared being homeless or losing my kids and I didn't know which was worse.

I think we are attracted to these guys out of need because if we come from dysfunctional families our self esteem is low and these guys make us feel GREAT until we marry them.

Problem is, you look back on your life after many years and know you can't get those years back.

Before I had children I could have divorced him but I got scared, being very young and insecure and afraid to make it on my own. I sure wish I had left him then.

Stephanie, if there is any way you can get out, do it. I will tell you-it will NOT get better and you will look back on your life with regrets.
I wish I had better things to say.

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