Muslim girl to marry Non-muslim

Submitted by Zakura (Singapore), Nov 19, 2006 at 12:53

Hi,

I have a dilemma. The moment I have been waiting for happened, my boyfriend of 4 years has proposed! of course I said yes! but the only problem now I can't even share this news to my family, as he is non-muslim and my family will certainly force him to convert, if not they will try to separate us. I cannot imagine us being apart and fear for life if I will never see him again.

I have tried to persuade him to convert, he refused and became more resistant. He agreed to learn the Islamic teaching and attend the conversion course and pre-marriage counselling under the Islamic conversion center but refused to read and declare the sha'adah at the end of the course. He feels that as long he attends the course and we both agree of his new knowledge or beliefs, its enough to vow to each other of our marriage. He doesnt want to be seated in front of 2 witness and declare himself as a new Muslim.

What should I do? If he refuses to go through this procedure, my family will disown me, I will be not accepted any more in the family if I still go ahead to marry him. He is a kind hearted person, and we get along so well, in fact we have lived together secretly overseas for many years.

How can I get my family to accept him without them kicking me out of the family. I am so distraught, I could not even celebrate the good news about his marriage proposal, instead I live in fear torn between 2 loves, him and my family.

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