Catholic woman marrying a non-practicing Muslim man from Bosnia

Submitted by fromCanada (Canada), Nov 20, 2006 at 03:35

Hi,

I recently got engaged to my boyfriend of six years. Throughout our relationship, we discussed our religious differences and knew that it was going to be difficult to compromise. Both families are very religious. I go to church every Sunday, went to catholic school and am currently involved actively in the Church.

He on the other hand does not practice his religion but is from Bosnia so his faith is his identity. Our views on how to practice our faith are different but our values and belief in God are the same. After being together for six years, we decided it was time to take the next step in our relationship with marriage.

However right now, our biggest conflict is how to raise the children in the future. From my point of view, since I am the one practicing, it would be easier to raise the kids catholic but my fiance would like to keep things neutral and have the kids decide for themselves when they are older. I am open to the idea but have some hesitations. My parents are adamant that our kids be raised catholic. They see it as the only way and will accept our marriage only if my fiance agrees to this.

I thought I could stand up to my parents but right now, it is really hard on me. My family is so important to me and my fiance is my life but I feel right now that I have to choose between the two and I honestly can't. I'm just wondering if anyone else out there is in a similar situation and if you can offer any advice!? I want to be happy but I also know that I won't be happy if my family is not going to support me. Please help!

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