Reply to Deb

Submitted by fromCanada (Canada), Nov 22, 2006 at 02:23

Hi Deb, Thank you for your thoughts. Those are my exact concerns. I really want to be able to have our children be involved in my church, go through all the rituals but my fiance doesn't feel comfortable with the idea. My fiance understands how important my faith is and I know he will give me the freedom to practice my religion and continue being active in the church but when we have kids, he would like it to be more neutral and not too one-sided. He would prefer that they learn from us and not from someone else (i.e. sunday school) when they are young and give them the freedom to decide and become more serious when they are older.

At times, I feel I can accept this because what is most important to me is that our children believe in God and learn basic values but at the same time, I have my concerns. I'm not sure if this will make me feel unhappy when the time actually comes. Will I feel lonely going to church without my family? Can I teach them on my own to understand and appreciate the teachings of the bible without having them attend sunday school or mass?

From what you are saying, it sounds like you have regrets. Is it that big of a deal that you wish you never married your husband? This is what I'm most concerned and afraid of. I can't imagine my life without him and I would like to believe that something like this will not be that big of a deal unless I let it but is it something I can control?

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