Stop! Wait a minute...

Submitted by Loraine (United Kingdom), Nov 26, 2006 at 22:18

You have never met this man, his family or friends or even seen where he lives and I assume, you have never been to his county, Moroccan or not. It's ludicrous to even consider marrying someone you met on internet site a month ago. How can you say you love someone based on what he has said to you when you do not even know anything about him or seen anything confirm the type of person he is.

I will assume he is Muslim. Well in that case, sex before marriage is illegal. Muslims can only really marry Muslims (some info contradicts this and includes practising Jews and Christians) are you going to convert? Smoking, drinking, eat pork and going to clubs are also prohibited as a Muslim. If you do pursue this are you going to wear a veil and allow him to marry 3 other women (although new laws say the first wife can object; only if he is not already married to his first wife). What about having children, if things do not work out and you have kids, you will need his permisson to take them out of the country unless you are an american citizen. How will you live - can you speak arabic or even french?

This is not love. Yes youre flattered as he has said all the right words. But the fact that you have only known him for a MONTH!! What does this say about you, is your self-esteem so low that you will accept anyone at face value ( not that you have seen him face-to-face).

I am not a Muslim I am black and british brought up in the Christian faith. I have been to Morocco recently for the very first time. Yes it was lovely and the people were nice too. I met someone who I like very much. He introduced me to his family and friends and maybe I think he could be the one (but so could many others).

But before I considered love and marriage I have to measure the man - that means travelling back and meeting with him and his family and friends again and again over a period of time to decide if he is genuine or trying his luck for a British passport. It means spending a couple months out there to experience the change in environment. It also mean familiarising myself with the laws, customs and Muslim faith and lifestyle of the country. It also means him finding his own way to visit the UK to see me in my own environment, family and friends and lifestyle.

Listen, love does not conquer all - there is too much in between, dont be silly, listen to your head, friends and family. If you were really that sure about him, you wouldn't be posting your question on this site in the first place!

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