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Submitted by Octavio (Italy), Nov 28, 2006 at 06:20

As a Latin man (from Italy), I am not the best person to talk about feminism. Men in general are not in touch with these issues. Anyway, now you are sending out a request for help. That is very good, and I do hope this Ivis can help you.

However, I have got a far less sensitive and less feminine advice to give you. The advice is: Quit. Be practical. Do you really think that things will improve because you learn about his religion and culture? Be pragmatic. This might be your last chance to get out of that mess.

I have dated women of different nationalities, and it was great. In your case, it is not working out. Maybe, Muslim men do have a different mentality and view of marriage. Look, in my town, 10% of the population are North Africans, mainly from Morocco. Some local women have married them, and they are happy. Others aren't.

You have put yourself in a very fine mess. This crisis in your marriage might be the way out for you. It could be the very last chance for you to be in charge of your own life. If the fella is a traditional Muslim, he might have different expectations. Your view that you can learn about his religion and change him is a complete utopia. This advice is not sensitive; it is actually very rude and abrupt. Quit now. If you go back with your husband, nobody knows what could happen to you.

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