American woman about to marry a Moroccan Muslim ...

Submitted by Annie (United States), Nov 28, 2006 at 21:02

I've been reading these comments for the last few days - and feel like I should post my own "story" too...

I'm an American woman and I've been in a relationship with a Moroccan man for one and a half years now. We met and I've traveled to Morocco only twice to see him - he will be moving to the USA at the beginning of December. I've sponsored his K1 Visa to enter the USA - on the stipulation that we marry each other. We will be living together before before marriage - and I will be supporting him completely.

I'm just concerned because when we met he was not practicing Islam, but said he was raised in a Muslim household. Since last year - he has been practicing Islam and I feel that this is going to be a potential issue for us - for example - during Ramadan the limitations on food, entertainment, sex, etc.

I'm concerned about the potential problems that might happen over our religious differences. For example - me being Christian I'd planned to abstain from sexual activities until marriage, but he doesn't (and so - we did) and now I feel like since I've gone this far with him - I need to marry him, or stay in the relationship. Even though he has had many (many) other sexual partners - I was waiting for my husband.

I think I know him, but how well do you really know someone - He is everything that the other people claim Moroccan men to be - demanding, focused on money, somewhat "forceful" (never physical yet - God will, never will be) self-centered, etc.

I don't know if I even have a question - I just needed to tell my story, and maybe someone will speak a word or two to me about how I should be regarding this situation I find myself to be in. ~ ANNIE

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