reply to Jade's comments "Moroccan Men"

Submitted by Annie (United States), Nov 28, 2006 at 21:35

Jade ~ you are walling in my shoes ... I meet a Moroccan on holiday and spend Christmas 2005 break with him in Morocco. Then it became really serious - he's commited to move to the USA - I've sponsored his K-1 Visa to enter the USA and will be supporting him completely.

I don't know what I can say about your relationship, but just know where you want this relationship to go ... and realize that this Moroccan man will want to marry you (he will say - it doesn't matter that you are not Muslim - assuming you're not - and he will say - "we have spend a good time together,and it's right what we do". Oh' and he'll want to have as much sex as he can with you - saying it's love and that it will bring you to a deeper relationship.

Just know that you have control to take decide if this is something you want - you can say "no" or you can say "yes". Don't let the distance get to you (it really got to me - I became so so attached to my Moroccan guy that I would become so emotional).

I would tell you to - meet his family... stay with them - speak to them - get to know how he treats his sisters and his mother. Speak to his father - try to be open and free to speak to the male members of his family. Use this "visit" to really look at where he is coming from and see if this is a place that is welcoming to you - even though you are a western non muslim women. If they dress you or tell you about changing religions ... just know that they will not stop doing this until they have made you who they want you to be!

Trust your heart - and know that the gut feeling is never wrong! Don't ignore your feelings, just to be in a relationship. Good luck - I'd love to know what happens after you visit over Christmas. ~ ANNIE

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".