TO STEPH FROM CARMEN (mexican girl with a Turk boyfriend)

Submitted by Carmen (Mexico), Nov 29, 2006 at 16:10

Dear Steph:

I´ve read so many of your comments, they all stayed on my mind and made me think about my situation over and over. Until i read you are maried to a turk man. Im a catholic mexican girl and my boyfriend is a turkish boy. we´re just 22 years old, but we have talked about marriage several times now. Actually this December i´m flying to Istanbul to meet his parents and all his relatives, this has been the hardest decision in my life, since my parents oppose to my relationship 100%. I´ve read many things about the Islam and muslim people, some are good and most of them are bad, so at this point i'm just so confused.

I have talk to Erdal (my boy friend) about what i´ve read and i question him all the time, he never gets mad about my questions, and he has always answered gladly, and I truly trust him. He also knows where i came from and how i think about women rights specially he knows im a free spirit who´s not willing to convert into the Islam. He has always said that he´s ok with that, but i have read so many sad stories that I obviously dont want to live myself.

I will be so thankful if you respond to this, since i think the better advice i can take, is from a woman who has already been through this situation.

Sagol....

Carmen

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