Your story is a lot like mine

Submitted by To Steph (United States), Dec 4, 2006 at 01:12

Hi again,

Wow I know how that is. We don't live in an isolated community like woods (where are You?) but are isolated just the same. We have no common friends anymore at all. He too, will put no money into the house or into furnishings or anything like that. Even pots and pans. I too am last on the list. It seems that in his culture women are used for sex , cooking, cleaning, and childbearing and the women accept it; men have their friendships with other men. There are no relationships between men and women, usually.

In Lebanon, men marrry women much younger, typically the man is 35-40 something and the girl is 14-17. His friend was thirty five and married a little 14 year old and told immigration she was 18. It disturbed me so much I couldn't see them and that caused problems because I wouldn't hang out with a child molester. The women are there for each other and have their moms sisters and friends for emotional support. Muslim women expect a lot of material things and get it from their men in exchange for the cooking, cleaning, etc., unlike us.

I'm surprised your husband failed his green card interview seeing you have a child and everything. I had trouble with my husband's family accepting my oldest son because he was fair and blue eyed but at least they've been good with the kids, when they see them. My mother in law only bought/sent my kids each one gift over the entire time she's known them.. And nothing for me. But they're always wanting money.

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