pitfalls of marrying muslim when you are christian

Submitted by Linda Yavuz (European Union), Dec 12, 2006 at 19:37

Hi

I remember back 15 years ago when I met and fell in love with my husband. It seems so very exoctic and different. A real journey of discovery, learning about new ways to love each other, sensual experiences.

however all these things immeadiately stopped when we got married. I soon learned that in a muslim society a wife is not an important person. She is to be hidden, told to shut up and do all the household work. Fine if you are the standard muslim wife, but not if you are a fully developed western person. You end up going out to work, being allocated by your husband all the domestic duties. Yes you may be lucky and 'he..god almighty' may disdain his position and help you with your domestic chores, but he will always want youto say thanks afterwards.

Mothers are very very important in the eyes of their son's...if there is a dispute they will always, always side with their mother. And is you are unlucky enough to have a daugther, then once they approach 12 your husband will want to lock her up and paln to marry her off to some distant cousin...to make sure she is 'safe' and does nor bring disrespect to the family name.

After 14 years of marriage I have divorced my husband and my 13 year old daughter is so happy at being able to live a real life again. Not being constantly harassed by her father to the etxent that she has tried to slit her wrists.

Please, please do not marry a muslim...if you want a relationship keep it just as that. you have a degree of control still, as if he is in a non married realtionship he is taking with him and living to western values.

Best of luck with your future

Smiler

wiltshire, England

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