Turkish Muslim Man

Submitted by Donna (United States), Dec 21, 2006 at 00:11

I am an American woman, who has been with a turkish muslim man for 4 years now. He has been in the states for about 13 years. He has never been married, and has no children. When I met him, he didnt have a greencard, and I offered to marry him shortly after because I was afraid he would be deported. He said no, but not because he didnt love me, but because he never wanted me to think he had married me to get a greencard. He got his greencard, and our relationship is just as wonderful as it was without the greencard. I never ever doubted his words to me. He is the most loving, honest, caring, and kind person I have ever met. He puts me first in every situation of life. He is educated, doesnt drink, smoke, curse, etc.

On the other hand, I have been married twice to American men. Both robbed me mentally, and financially. They were looking for someone to support them. They were abusive both mentally and physically. They called themselves christians.

I think everyone here has made a mistake. Dont judge people by their religion, or what part of the earth they were born. Look at them as individuals. Dont allow your heart to not see them for who they really are, and dont make a great fantasy out of something that should be simple. I think many people are inlove with the idea of being inlove, and will overlook anything...only to complain after the fact.

I am sure there are good men all over the world, it just takes time to find them, and people need to learn not to settle (as I did) while waiting for that person.

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