Re: Asian and Muslim!!

Submitted by Canadian Asian (Canada), Dec 22, 2006 at 20:16

May,

I dont even know how I came across this site and your message but it was good to see how someone else is in the same shoes as myself. I am also asian and have been dating a Muslim man for the past two years. I am also getting to the end of my relationship.

Before I had met him, I had gone from one of the most social open-hearted and free mind personalities to someone who only stays at home most of the time unless it is with close friends. I feel that my own being has been controlled slightly over the smallest things. It would always go from I was out with my friends...and he would get upset that i was out ...and for two years it has just been an on going battle to the point that sometimes I feel that I am not bothering to go out because I want to avoid all the drama.

I am someone who likes to be thought of and I like to give back alot and I like to plan. He has said that he places his career and his family first. That is somethign I find very hard to swallow. I cry alot at night because I always wanted to be in a relationship where I can freely get to know someone's family. I've been with him for two years and out of 7 brothers and sisters. I've only met one brother. No one knows that I exist in terms of close family. All his friends know about me..and that is something I can't balance. They are all muslims friends as well and do not shed the same light as I do. They probably all agree to what he does is right. Has this happened to you?? I always wonder how I fell in love with him. I dont want to let it go..but at the same time I dont feel that I am being treated the way I deserve.

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