TURKISH FAMILY does not approve!! I'm an American MUSLIM woman :( - what do I do?

Submitted by Anonymous Muslim Girl (United States), Dec 24, 2006 at 00:11

HELP!!!! We were engaged and I was going there for holiday and his family flipped out. We were going to wait until he immigrated to the US to tell them but now they know and they've forbidden him to see me, or talk to me. I don't know what to do. We are both 30 - yes you saw it correctly - 30. He's divorced, which has shamed the family - so they already think he cannot make good decisions. but I am a professional with a grad degree and I keep my own home. I look pretty young (about 23), but i'm fairly tall, and I don't look turkish at all. I'm a catch, don't get me wrong.

Also, he does not like turkish women, - both personality and physically. But I think his family has gotten him and right now there is nothing I can do. I'm freaking out. We do care for each other as we were planning to marry, but now everything is at a standstill. Is there anything I can do without looking like a crazy lunatic?

I'm afraid they will try to arrange a marriage which makes me want to vomit when I think about it.. but I'm just not sure what to do. I've cancelled my trip, but I don't think they should judge me without knowing me. Oh, and yes, I am muslim also. So I thought that would help.... apparently not... Any advice? Or even words of encouragement? - He's in Turkey - I'm in USA. I think I gave enough info here.

Thanks all!

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