to Francesca, sounds so similar

Submitted by Wendy (United States), Dec 27, 2006 at 08:31

Hi Francesca,

I have the same situation. I have just returned from Turkey (my third visit) and after 1 1/2 years, am now engaged to my Turkish boyfriend. My parents are still very hesitant about this relationship. Like you, my parents have never met him face to face. I did meet him here in the United States, but he is currently living back in Turkey.

We have discussed about me living in Turkey (and sometimes I think things would be much easier if I did) but, also like you, I am very close to my family and don't want to live that far away. I also have a very good job with great benefits and that is pretty hard to give up. Although, I wonder how this is going to all work. He is also very close to his family and even though my job is good, I still can not be the soul provider for both of us. So there is definitely the financial aspect of things.

Since I am Catholic also, I have told him I don't want to have children, because he does not want to convert and I will not convert to Muslim. So I think this is the only answer.

I hope things work out for both of us. I would love to hear how things progress with your relationship, especially since it is so similar to mine.

Take Care. I will remember you in my prayers, please remember me in yours. Thanks.

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