Reply to Strabenzi - listen to God and not your heart

Submitted by fromCanada (Canada), Dec 29, 2006 at 14:51

Hi Strabenzi,

You sound just like me when I first fell in love with my fiance. I had the exact same feelings. Everyone in my family was trying to talk me out of my relationship with my muslim boyfriend but it only angered me and caused me to withdraw from them b/c he did nothing wrong. I thought they were being prejudiced and unfair. This was 6 years ago.

Now I am engaged to him but we are having issues trying to compromise with religion once we are married. I thought we could work things out and I didn't really think hurting my family would hurt my relationship with him but it does. It gets so complicated when you mix religion into your life. If you are non-practicing, then I say stay with him. But if you are serious about your religion, then you need to talk things out with him and find out what his feelings are. It's a touchy and upsetting topic which I avoided until now, but if I could go back, I wish I had discussed all these issues seriously with him and maybe if we had, we might have broken up back then before things got too serious.

You are young, if you are not thinking about marriage, then don't get too serious with him.

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