Turkish Muslim Man

Submitted by Donna (United States), Dec 30, 2006 at 21:54

I have 2 children from a previous marriage. Also, we have been married for 2.5 years. He has adopted my children, and is a very good father to them. We celebrate xmas in the sense of Santa Claus, and also, he says he cant see the harm in celebrating the birth of a prophet. I have visited Turkey with him, and his family completely excepts me and my children. His mother has sent tons of gifts, and also set up trust funds for the children.

I do agree, that many muslim marriages are not good, but look around...there are just as many christian marriages that are not happy either. I don't think it is all the muslims mans fault either. Many american women marry these men, thinking it will be a gravy train. This is not meant to put down american women, but most have lost the idea of what marriage and family means as far as work is concerned.

My niece for example, she is upset because her marriage is not good, but she refuses to clean, cook, keep the kids clean, etc. I have ask her many times, what she thinks her husband is getting from the marriage, and she answers "me". Hmmmmmm ...it seems to me, since he works and provides for the family, she could do something to make his life easier. Being a wife means you have to do more than bathe and put on makeup. Being a mother, means you have to do even more. Also, before the marriage, she cooked, cleaned, etc...its like a tactic to land a man.

As for my marriages to christian men....I cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, worked a full time job. Kept myself looking great all the time. They drank, smoked, cursed, stayed out all night..beat me because dinner was cold at 3am..then...low and behold, they sat on the front row in church every sunday, while I stayed at home because of the black eyes...

I just think its totally wrong, for people to put everyone in a group based on religion, or race..I think these women didnt really ask the important questions before marrying these men, as I am gulty of with my first 2 marriages. I had a tendency to see only something that was sugar coated, when all the signs were there...I just wanted to make a fantasy relationship out of it...thinking it would be better when married, etc..

As for my muslim husband, we talked about holidays, food, children, religion, family, work, money, all of that before we decided marriage was right for us.

By the way, he likes american food, but I love taking the time every now and then to make a traditional turkish meal. It makes him feel special, and it makes me feel wonderful to know I make him happy.

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