Questioning his love for you?

Submitted by Donna (United States), Dec 31, 2006 at 16:47

I have found that if you have to question whether someone loves you or not, the answer is that they dont. It took me a long time to realize this, because I was good at convincing myself that they did, because thats how I wanted it to be. When someone loves you ladies, you will not have to hear the words to know it.

Also, I would like to add something not pertaining to this title. I have done research, and read the Koran, and it seems to me if these husbands were following the religion, they would be good to their wives, since that is what the Koran teaches. I think the abuse people are describing here in these post are more culture related. I talked to my husband about it, and he agrees that it is a culture trait that is mainly focused on the arab community.

He said not only Arabs, but the trait tends to be in all races that follow Islam, and are uneducated. Many of the women and men, can not even read, or if they can, never bothered to read the Koran, but just took examples of how they saw others living as a lesson. He also told me that in Turkey, you can see hundreds and thousands of people reciting prayers in Arabic...when in fact, they have no idea what they are saying, but this is what they were taught as children. Also, eastern Turkey tends to have more of the men that abuse in the name of Islam.

I would be willing to say maybe i just found a good muslim man, but I have had the opportunity to meet his friends, and have them stay in my home. I have also met their muslim girl friends, and they treat them with the same respect and care that my husband treats me. So...I think its more about how a person is raised to think, and less about the religion itself.

I have also read that Muhammed Ali made his wife walk 3 steps behind him. This is another example of how it differs from race to race. He is a black muslim. With my husband, he walks beside me, and always on the side he feels is the most dangerous, such as if we are on a road side, he is closest to the cars. He always intends to keep me safe. He is wonderful to our children. He helps with homework, music lessons, practices etc. If I am busy working, or donating my time to charity, he does the cooking and anything else that is needed.

I think in many cases Islam has been rewritten in the minds of men and they use it to control women.

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