reply to lynnie

Submitted by awz (United Kingdom), Jan 3, 2007 at 19:17

lynnie, if this guy said he doesn't love you then how can you stay with him? besides it seems as though you don't completely trust him and if you don't trust him you don't actually love him and best thing would probably be to seperate. I don't know if he's using you or not and i can't say either for sure. I don't know if religion plays a part in it or maybe he's just that type of guy who uses women for his own ends.

you might wanna talk him about it, but covertly so as not to arouse his suspicion. If you have doubts that he is using you then no one can blame you for what you choose to do. From a religious perspective, if he's not being attentive to you then that's his fault and it's up to him to fix it. by your description his behaviour does seem strange. it could be that he's just using you to get citizenship and by the sounds of it that's what you truly believe. you'll have to do what you think is best.

I'll just say once again that the way he's been acting goes against what islam teaches about married life and a husband's relationship with his wife.

Take care and good luck with whatever you decide.

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